Comments for Parenting At Risk Youth http://www.atriskhope.com/blog Help for parents of teenagers, disipline advice, hope for the parents of at-risk youth. Sun, 05 Sep 2010 09:40:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.2 Comment on Teen Porn, Sex, Lies, and Videotape by Paul Krueger http://www.atriskhope.com/blog/?p=27#comment-1100 Paul Krueger Fri, 09 Oct 2009 05:47:45 +0000 http://www.atriskhope.com/blog/?p=27#comment-1100 I suggest you review the steps of intimacy in your Parent Project book. I think it is Unit V or VI. I recommend that you use the approach if intimacy and relationship development as the primary foundation of your "sex talks" show him what kind of relationship sex belongs in, and bluntly explain to him the misconceptions the workld grooms when it comes to sex, and bluntly explain the realities. Make sure after you explain all this that you also reiterate your expectations/house rules. I also recommend that it is Rob that has the sex talk with him and that it is both of you that talk to him about the relationship side. Sorry it took so long to respond I suggest you review the steps of intimacy in your Parent Project book. I think it is Unit V or VI. I recommend that you use the approach if intimacy and relationship development as the primary foundation of your “sex talks” show him what kind of relationship sex belongs in, and bluntly explain to him the misconceptions the workld grooms when it comes to sex, and bluntly explain the realities. Make sure after you explain all this that you also reiterate your expectations/house rules. I also recommend that it is Rob that has the sex talk with him and that it is both of you that talk to him about the relationship side.

Sorry it took so long to respond

]]> Comment on Teen Porn, Sex, Lies, and Videotape by sherry http://www.atriskhope.com/blog/?p=27#comment-160 sherry Tue, 10 Jun 2008 03:47:59 +0000 http://www.atriskhope.com/blog/?p=27#comment-160 you go Pasta! Rob and I definitely agree with you. We've always been pretty open with chad, unfortunately I think we've "told" him how we feel and what we believe more than we've "communicated with" him about sex. He's pretty silent on the subject so we just keep telling him our values. Any clues here? What solutions have you come up with which address our culture's view of teenage sex? I think sometimes chad feels like an oddball cuz we don't let him see just any movie, (maybe there are only one or two inappropriate scenes) we're careful about what music/lyrics we allow, etc. so he starts to want to have his own identity and finds and chooses things that naturally go against the values we, his parents, hold. you go Pasta! Rob and I definitely agree with you. We’ve always been pretty open with chad, unfortunately I think we’ve “told” him how we feel and what we believe more than we’ve “communicated with” him about sex. He’s pretty silent on the subject so we just keep telling him our values. Any clues here? What solutions have you come up with which address our culture’s view of teenage sex? I think sometimes chad feels like an oddball cuz we don’t let him see just any movie, (maybe there are only one or two inappropriate scenes) we’re careful about what music/lyrics we allow, etc. so he starts to want to have his own identity and finds and chooses things that naturally go against the values we, his parents, hold.

]]> Comment on Avoid the Flash Flood… by sherry http://www.atriskhope.com/blog/?p=30#comment-8 sherry Tue, 26 Feb 2008 14:33:57 +0000 http://www.atriskhope.com/blog/?p=30#comment-8 Thank you Pastor Paul! This works! I didn't realize I had the CHOICE to walk away. DUH! I thought I had to tell the little dude just how it was and why! He wasn't listening, just trying to convince ME that HE was RIGHT! Thank you and Pastor Chris for facilitating the class! (Hey, can I give the website address to other parents who were interested but didn't get to take the class this time?) <strong><em>Absolutely! Give the address to as many people as you want.... Thank you for your comments and for making the choice to walk away! -Pastor Paul</strong></em> Thank you Pastor Paul! This works! I didn’t realize I had the CHOICE to walk away. DUH! I thought I had to tell the little dude just how it was and why! He wasn’t listening, just trying to convince ME that HE was RIGHT! Thank you and Pastor Chris for facilitating the class!
(Hey, can I give the website address to other parents who were interested but didn’t get to take the class this time?)

Absolutely! Give the address to as many people as you want…. Thank you for your comments and for making the choice to walk away!
-Pastor Paul

]]> Comment on Reconnecting with Teenagers: Overcoming Distorted Perception by Paul Krueger http://www.atriskhope.com/blog/?p=21#comment-4 Paul Krueger Thu, 27 Sep 2007 19:52:21 +0000 http://www.atriskhope.com/blog/?p=21#comment-4 Great insight! Great insight!

]]> Comment on Reconnecting with Teenagers: Overcoming Distorted Perception by Amy http://www.atriskhope.com/blog/?p=21#comment-3 Amy Wed, 26 Sep 2007 00:47:46 +0000 http://www.atriskhope.com/blog/?p=21#comment-3 Even with a child of three years old these things still work. The only difference is at three years old the issues are much more simple. As you stated its still about not letting the child get what they want and controlling the situation. Even with a child of three years old these things still work. The only difference is at three years old the issues are much more simple. As you stated its still about not letting the child get what they want and controlling the situation.

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